Where Has All the Love Gone?

So even though I once aspired to win one, I don’t watch the Oscars or most of those awards type shows. I used to feel a little left out in conversation the day after when talk turned to who won what and even more to who WORE what, but with the advent of the internet, I can take a peek after the fact. It’s a win/win for me since I find myself more and more disengaged with what happens in Hollywood.

I do love to see the pretty dresses though and as usual, found myself shocked and amazed at how really rich and beautiful people can have really bad taste when it comes to fashion as well as how truly lovely off screen so many of them are.  You could re-watch the Red Carpet the day afer the Oscars in almost a play by play of 2013 Oscar history–the internet was full of lists–best vs worst dresses, dresses showing the most uncovered body parts (see why I avoid watching?) etc.

But I was most amazed to see the venom with which Jennifer Anniston was being attacked for her hair. For wearing it down and natural. For not being more “out there” in her hairstyle choice.

I kept looking at the picture. Trying to see what was wrong with it. Such a beautiful woman. Sparkling. Happy. Talking about how she felt like a Princess in her dress. Showing off her engagement ring. Excited to be there as a presenter. And yet, the media, the fashion police spewing ugliness about her hair. (Now, I saw a reality show star pic who’d designed her own dress with nothing left to the imagination–a wardrobe malfunction in the making and found it ironic that this person with little fashion sense was at the Oscars to be launched as a fashion commentator! That tells me a little of the qualifications for that “job” lol)

And we wonder why we struggle with our appearance as women.

Why girls and women are looking for love in all the wrong places.

Why diseases like anorexia are rampant in our culture.

It reminded of a Scripture I need to be reminded of regularly. “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen” Ephesians 4:29

I have a sarcastic sense of humor. I love to zing a one-liner and go for the laugh. I used to think it was a gift but the Bible says the power of life and death is in the tongue.(Proverbs 18:21) Sometimes I need to follow my Mama’s instructions and if I can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all!

Want to be convicted? Read the treatise in James 3 about taming the tongue! “With our tongue we praise our Lord and Father and curse human beings who were made in his image.” James 3:9 OUCH!

Now I have no idea if any of the fashionista’s are believers. I can’t expect them to uphold God’s standard if they don’t know Him. But for those of us watching, listening, looking and then commenting either for or against, I had to ask myself, is it pleasing to God? Would I look Jennifer Anniston in the face and tell her she’d blown the hair contest?  I’d hope not, but when I look on others who God created and speak with a critical spirit, I am failing the mandate to edify others.

The Word says they will know we are Christ Followers by our love of each other. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” John 13: 34-35

That includes my words.

2 comments to Where Has All the Love Gone?

  • Kimberly

    Thanks, Tracy. I agree. I just find it so incredibly sad that we act like we are judge and jury of each other based on our likes and dislikes. And people are people–I’m not sure anyone gets beyond being hurt by ugly words, even when beautiful and famous! It just hurts my heart to hear and see it, but I’ll also admit it is easy to fall into without realizing it. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts.

  • Tracy

    I appreciate this post so much! I love to see what everyone wears to these award shows, but I sure hate the way they’re graded and judged and picked at over their looks, their hair, their choice of clothing. It’s really disgusting.

    And Jennifer Anniston is a natural beauty – she was gorgeous!